For One Night I Revelled In Someone Else's Misery

Last night I witnessed a guy chase after a girl who didn't want him. And it was sad to see yet hilarious. The reason why she doesn't want him is because he cheated on her; and clearly she found out and he blamed his indiscretion on a drunken night. I laughed. I laughed because as much as he wanted her back, the fact that he couldn't understand why she wouldn't take him back...therefore, resulting in the chase made it all the more enjoyable.

He is an acquaintance and someone who I would carry a conversation with if I were stuck in an elevator with him for 15 floors. Good looking (and he knows it), charming, sense of humour and has impecable style and looks good in a suit. All the requirements for any single female looking for a good hunt.

Anyway, so I see him in the club chasing this girl and basically doing everything not to stare at her yet he won't approach her. Taking into consideration that we all happened to be at the same night spot and on a Saturday night, twenty-somethings usually aim to have a good time - and I'm sure on any given occassion this guy would have been enjoying himself like the rest of his cohort, but he was as sober as my 13 year old nephew, looking misreable (yet telling everyone he was having a great time) and basically watching this girl from 15 ft away.

I had to laugh. Because for one night, my life didn't seem as bad nor could I be the one to be blamed for any wrong-doings.

And then I woke up today and heard this song. And then I felt bad for the guy. Because as much as he wants her, she is doing the smart thing by not giving into his pleas and moving on with her life. And despite it not looking like the best thing right now, it is for them both in the long run. A guy can't think that he can get away with shit like that and expect to be forgiven if he blames his wrong-doing on a drunken night and apologizes. That is just wrong. And women have to realize that sooner rather than later. (And it works both ways). And it would be an even bigger mistake if the girl took him back because the trust is broken. How can she ever trust him again? What is there to build on if the trust is broken during the dating phase? Why even bother right?

I have learned from my mistakes and I am still learning from them. It doesn't make each day any easier but I at least know that I am doing the right thing. I might miss my ex-boyfriend and might get the urge to send him an SMS but it is not going to change the current situation of him cheating on me and having a new girlfriend or our whole conversation on "Closure" taking place.

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